We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so frequently at this time of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and the men and women to whom we say it.
We are all unique people with our own unique needs and desires; and the majority of us are united inside our quest for the same thing – to feel New Year 2020. Many of us are striving with this state of ‘happiness’; nevertheless lots of people are looking inside the wrong place for it – and settling to get a temporary mood-enhancer in the form of alcohol, drugs, a new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are now filled with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – the majority of which can be just plain good sense! Nobody else is the expert for you! Only you know – or are trying to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is an additional person’s burden.
If you now take into consideration what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to getting a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is noticed in general society.
Happiness for you personally depends upon your own level of personal and spiritual awareness, along with your ability to create happiness as being a state of mind that you can come back to at will – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is not enough to simply ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself for being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What many of us don’t realise is that we have two mind-sets about everything in our life, which two minds can attend odds with one another. This conflict can include the levels of happiness our company is ‘allowed’ to enjoy.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t believe that we deserve it, or we would benefit from it – then it just isn’t likely to come our way. Our outer lives are merely ever a reflection of our own inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies usually do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the exact opposite. This is known as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – and it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves hand out that consequently affects those around us.
We have neurons inside our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion that people are witnessing outside of us. As an example if we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we have been instinctively programmed to feel something similar. This connection surpasses mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of similar things having happened to us before. We have been significantly impacted by being around Merry Christmas 2019 Wishes, whose emotions then we ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled with a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may be wearing; which is a false-self they present to the world as an try to hide their real feelings and desires. This may well have been set up in childhood when it was encouraged and expected that they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for the family’s sake; as well as stuff down their real feelings like anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which was real, but ‘unacceptable’ from the family/care-giver.
So many people are so familiar with wearing a mask they cannot imagine an existence without this, or how to take it away! Their eyes will usually give the game away as to their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if someone else is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
All of us have a ‘base-line’ amount of happiness at any given stage in our lives – which can be formed from our past experiences as well as the meaning we gave to them; and of course the effects these have gotten upon our sub-conscious mind and the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% of the full quantity of happiness we are capable of experiencing in the present time. Another 10% can range from external ‘lucky’ events like the lottery win; or a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and that we soon come back to our base level once more.
The particular good news though would be that the remaining 40% of happiness accessible to you – hails from YOU! This can be scientifically validated and forms a central part of Positive Psychology.
You will find 12 means of facilitating more happiness by the own actions and thoughts, and also by the releasing your own blockages. A few of these ways include finding out how to create a more optimistic and focused strategy to life; to maintain your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness to you. These sound simple but in fact are profound and life-changing. Enhancing your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell in your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and for that reason your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to your calmness in the mind… observing what is, and not forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; instead of worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To find out the Happy New Year 2020 in every tiny moment instead of only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling inside the unchangeable past. The only time you actually have is that this moment and the next breath. Make the most of these whilst you still need them.